I’ve decided there needs to be a framework from which I decide what’s a “good” self-improvement, and what is a “bad,” more damaging effort that’s a no-win situation.
Particularly in the arena of anti-aging, I see many things targeting our fears about aging and the ravages of time. Fear-based buying and endeavors are absolutely not winning situations for any of us, and I think I have to create a set of rules for my journey.
That said, I’m just jotting down some quick truths that I hope will guide me, and I hope to refine this thinking over the next few months.
Realistically, as much as I’d like to live a whole and spiritual life in which I don’t care about how I look or how time passes me by… I’m just too vain and human to allow that kind of wisdom to prevail.
I know very good and well that my “wellness” efforts have ulterior motives. I want to look better, feel better, remain young and fit as much as I can. So… how to get the ego under control and let reason rule my decisions?
Here are my instinctive thoughts on protecting myself from things that will fail and disappoint me:
I must evaluate each new purchase or effort with a simple question, “Is this ego-driven, or spirit-driven?” I won’t always choose things that are spirit-driven, but at least I’ll be facing the truth about why I want to try it.
I must ask myself, “If this works, what will the reward be?”
Also, “If this fails, what will the consequence be?”
Is my desire to “correct” this beauty or health flaw driven by ego or love for myself?
That’s just a really quick assessment of some things I have failed to ask myself in the past, and a resolution I’m making today to avoid a never-ending cycle of trying diet yo-yo situations, snake oil beauty remedies, and quick-fix products for physical wellness.
Doing the work should nourish the soul and always represent progress, not an unattainable goal that will lead to disappointment and a sense of failure.